Because....when you get, uh, heated...with someone you love....and you bite them in the throes of passion, it. Er. Leaves a mark like that. On their skin. Which I saw.
[I am so, so sorry. But Mandi is going to get a brief glimpse of Kon and Lalli kissingpretty enthusiastically on a couch in Fall dorm, and then of Lalli abruptly pulling away from Kon. He can't not remember it, and now it's inflicted on Mandi too.
Lalli makes a slightly uncomfortable noise before speaking again.]
...are we doing it wrong if there wasn't any throes of passion?
[This is distressing to him, someone who has absolutely no sex education whatsoever.]
It isn't you being weird. I mean, yeah. Kissing isn't all that sex is. But people have different wants and needs when it comes to that stuff. You aren't weird if there's things you are and aren't comfortable with, y'know?
[It's still weird, having his insecurities heard so clearly and addressed. And Lalli is tempted to respond by avoiding that point entirely, but it won't actually help much at all.]
I don't know anything about it.
[He's actually not being dismissive, he's honestly admitting to knowing nothing.]
[Hoooo. Yeah. Awkward topic, but...he's not the type to leave Lalli behind on this.]
Let's find a place to sit and you can, um, ask me questions, okay? Though I'll warn ya, coming here was the first time I did it with a guy. I only had experience with women when I was alive.
[There's a lot he wants to know that he's probably never going to ask, because Lalli is private like that. But knowing enough not to go in blind is probably best.]
...how, I guess? You don't have to give details, but just. It's two men. And no vaginas. ...at least not in this case.
[His understanding of sex is very much from procreation standpoint, sorry.]
[Mandricardo is the type of friend who like. Bypasses his own social anxiety if he sees someone else suffering from Anxiety like no. Stop that.]
Lalli...I mean, sex can be about just askin' for it...but most of the time, it's a natural thing that sort of happens as like...a progression of things. Like, um. You kissing Kon at that party. Were you feelin' overwhelmed?
[It's too bad that this isn't emotionshare week because then Lalli could just share how utterly uncomfortable he feels when being touched most of the time. As it is, the words too much come across clearly in his mind, which is the best way he can think of to describe what happens.]
Mhmm. It was weird, we hold hands and kiss all the time and it's not a problem, but that-
[-like wearing an itchy shirt and just wanting to rip it off but you can't because it's your own skin-]
Of course it does! If you are uncomfortable if it goes too fast...there's nothing wrong with slowing it down. Sometimes, to just explore someone else's body and allowing yourself to get comfortable with it in return...that's incredibly intimate.
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Date: 2021-07-22 03:51 am (UTC)[He said it before, he'd know more.]
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Don't make this weird. But why did you think Kon and I had sex?
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Date: 2021-07-22 03:54 am (UTC)Uh. Um.
[Hm.]
Because....when you get, uh, heated...with someone you love....and you bite them in the throes of passion, it. Er. Leaves a mark like that. On their skin. Which I saw.
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Date: 2021-07-22 04:06 am (UTC)Lalli makes a slightly uncomfortable noise before speaking again.]
...are we doing it wrong if there wasn't any throes of passion?
[This is distressing to him, someone who has absolutely no sex education whatsoever.]
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Date: 2021-07-22 04:09 am (UTC)[Why must he have had sex and be burdened with such knowledge.]
Lalli, that. Um. Looked very passionate?
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Date: 2021-07-22 04:18 am (UTC)[It's probably me being weird again anyway.]
I refuse to believe that kissing is sex.
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Date: 2021-07-22 04:20 am (UTC)[And just shaking his head.]
It isn't you being weird. I mean, yeah. Kissing isn't all that sex is. But people have different wants and needs when it comes to that stuff. You aren't weird if there's things you are and aren't comfortable with, y'know?
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Date: 2021-07-22 04:30 am (UTC)[It's still weird, having his insecurities heard so clearly and addressed. And Lalli is tempted to respond by avoiding that point entirely, but it won't actually help much at all.]
I don't know anything about it.
[He's actually not being dismissive, he's honestly admitting to knowing nothing.]
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Date: 2021-07-22 04:31 am (UTC)[Well. Who else will ask, or even answer this kind of thing for Lalli?]
Do you...want to know more about it?
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Date: 2021-07-22 04:37 am (UTC)[That's his way of saying he does have questions, yes.]
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Date: 2021-07-22 04:42 am (UTC)[Hoooo. Yeah. Awkward topic, but...he's not the type to leave Lalli behind on this.]
Let's find a place to sit and you can, um, ask me questions, okay? Though I'll warn ya, coming here was the first time I did it with a guy. I only had experience with women when I was alive.
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Date: 2021-07-22 04:46 am (UTC)[Just. So Mandi gets an idea of just how little Lalli knows.
But yeah they can go find a bench to sit down on for now.]
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Date: 2021-07-22 04:54 am (UTC)[Anyways, here they are, sitting on a bench.]
So. Um. I guess I have to ask. Is there anything off the bat you want to know?
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Date: 2021-07-22 05:05 am (UTC)...how, I guess? You don't have to give details, but just. It's two men. And no vaginas. ...at least not in this case.
[His understanding of sex is very much from procreation standpoint, sorry.]
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Date: 2021-07-22 05:09 am (UTC)[His face is definitely very red at this.]
No vaginas, no. But you have the....I don't know the medical term. A...nal? Anus? As far as an opening you could, er, use. For one.
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Date: 2021-07-22 05:13 am (UTC)There's got to be other ways besides that.
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Date: 2021-07-22 05:15 am (UTC)[Wow, thought share is now sharing an image of a man performing a blowjob on another guy! Thanks, thought share!!!]
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Date: 2021-07-22 05:24 am (UTC)Don't show it! That's private!
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Date: 2021-07-22 05:27 am (UTC)[Just putting his hands against the sides of his face and staring down at the ground.]
Anyways, that's. Um. Another way! It feels good when you're...stimulated like that.
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Date: 2021-07-22 05:35 am (UTC)I can't ask Kon to do that! It doesn't matter if it feels good, I'll die asking!
[Yeah surprise he's been thinking about this ever since Saturday.]
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Date: 2021-07-22 05:38 am (UTC)[Mandricardo is the type of friend who like. Bypasses his own social anxiety if he sees someone else suffering from Anxiety like no. Stop that.]
Lalli...I mean, sex can be about just askin' for it...but most of the time, it's a natural thing that sort of happens as like...a progression of things. Like, um. You kissing Kon at that party. Were you feelin' overwhelmed?
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Date: 2021-07-22 05:46 am (UTC)Mhmm. It was weird, we hold hands and kiss all the time and it's not a problem, but that-
[-like wearing an itchy shirt and just wanting to rip it off but you can't because it's your own skin-]
-mmm.
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Date: 2021-07-22 05:54 am (UTC)[Hmm.]
Would you have preferred it if he took it slower, maybe?
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